About Virginia McCarley
Find calm, energy, & joy.
My clients are like you: tired of being tired. They’re usually Christians who want to work through the whys behind their frustration, self-criticism, zapped energy, and anxiety. They’re amazing at their jobs, but the stress of the work wears on them. They’re doing their best to take care of their families, excel in their career, be the best mom and wife, stay on top of the household needs and errands, and be a great & supportive friend like they always have been – but the responsibilities have piled up & are overwhelming on more days than not. They wonder if there’s something wrong with them when they struggle to keep up with everything. And then they criticize themselves when they struggle. They’re exhausted, and how hard they are on themselves only makes it worse.
About Christian counseling: My clients are not always looking specifically for “Christian counseling” per-say, but they are often looking for a counselor who understands, respects, and values their Christian faith whether they talk about it in therapy or not. They’re looking for a therapist who can help them dig into existential anxieties, find (or re-discover) a sense of purpose in their life, build tools and healthy ways of coping with problems, heal emotionally, and gain confidence.
Meet Virginia.
I work with ambitious, caring women who are tired of feeling tired & frustrated.
Somewhere along the way, either all of a sudden or gradually, you may have realized that you just want to feel happy again.
If you’re like many of my clients, you want to have more good days than bad, and you want to have the tools, and the confidence, to ride through the bad days when they do come rather than feeling like you’ve barely scraped by without it almost completely eating you alive. You want to have the energy, motivation, and calm to keep up with your loved ones and everything else, while having space for yourself.
I can help.
For years I’ve supported clients in working through burn-out, anxiety, life stress, and the constant worries & guilt about not being enough or doing enough. And I’ve experienced and worked through this stuff myself too. I get what it’s like when life is chaotic and your mind is even more chaotic. Therapy with me gives you the space, tools, and calm to find joy, energy, motivation, and confidence so that you can connect with your family and friends again, love your work, and live life present, peaceful, and happy.
Maybe you’re waiting until things feel bad enough to reach out. If you’re reading this, it’s probably already bad enough—quietly struggling alone doesn’t have to be your regular.
I know that what you’re really interested in is, can I help you?
My clients spend all of their time helping other people and caring about what others think of them: their spouse, their friends, their mom, their co-workers, their boss, their kids’ friends’ parents. And they spend approximately zero time meeting their own needs, except maybe here and there when going on a 15 minute run will entertain the toddler. They love caring for others, it’s part of who they are, but my clients also wish they cared about themselves more and had more confidence in their own opinions.
You might be like my clients in that you’re not exactly drowning, but you’re also not swimming. You love your work, it’s your dream, and yet, the stress completely eats you up. Your husband is great but your marriage could be better. You love your kids so dang much, but you still get mad at them more often than you’d like to admit. And you’re too overwhelmed to spend any time with your friends anymore.
Therapy with me is a space for you. It’s your space to start to understand the emotions and things you’ve been bottling up, and to actually feel them rather than stuffing the back in the bottle. It’s your space to start to see your patterns and why they developed in the first place, and to develop compassion for yourself. It’s your space to discover your needs, learn healthy communication skills and conflict resolution skills, learn healthy ways of coping with the hard circumstances that brought you here, and gain the tools to build healthier & more connected relationships that support both you and the people you love.
You’ve tried coping on your own & it hasn’t worked. You don’t have to try to hold everything alone.
This therapy is for women who are tired of feeling like they’re barely getting through the day and are ready to feel lighter and have energy & confidence.
+ We’ll probably be a good fit:
If you’re looking for a compassionate, objective third party who can help you step outside of yourself, mend relationships, and who will gently challenge you.
If you prefer a therapist who will help you think more deeply, abstractly, and in ways you may not have before so that you can actually find resolution.
If you need a therapist who can graciously hold the parts of yourself that you aren’t gentle with yourself, so that you can be patient with yourself and your loved ones.
– We may not be a good fit:
If you’re in crisis, needing crisis care or psychiatric care, or have made a suicide plan or intend to carry it out — if this is you, please immediately call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room.
If you’re experiencing psychosis.
My training & credentials
I’ve been sitting with clients in various settings since 2021. I am a Licensed Mental Health Counselor in Florida (license # MH25813), and a Licensed Professional Counselor in Arkansas (license # P2405022). I have experience working with attachment issues & disorders, burnout, work-life balance, career stress, suicidal thoughts, self-criticism & self-confidence issues, disordered eating, trauma, anxiety, and depression. I have extended training in Brainspotting, a trauma therapy modality used to reduce distress and increase regulation & resilience. I actively serve on the Space Coast Mental Health Counselors Association board to further education for counselors in Florida. And I have continued experience sitting on the client side of the room, for both my personal and professional development.